Looking for relationship tools for couples? Free apps for married couples can add spice to your relationship, help you with shared to-do lists for couples, etc.
I spent the last few weeks combing through relationship apps for couples, and let me just tell you – I was impressed. Do you realize all the cool free apps for married couples there are?
Ones that definitely weren’t available when my husband and I tied the knot almost 10 years ago?
It’s pretty exciting.
In fact, we signed up for a few of these and have started using them ourselves.
Psst: wondering which ones? We are now both using the free Zeta Budgeting App for couples, and the Ultimate Intimacy App. Ooh-la-la!
Stick with me as I show you how to manage, grow, and otherwise liven up your relationship with apps for couples.
Note: All of these apps are free, and there are typically upgrades or in-app purchases that you can make within each.
Apps as Relationship Tools for Couples
When you think about relationship tools for couples, things like shared calendars, marriage advice books, couples therapy workbooks, etc. might come to mind.
But…what about relationship apps? Relationship apps for couples are quite new (at least in the “marital tools” part of the world), and yet they’re one of my favorite relationship tools.
For starters, they offer a new way for couples to interact when they’re not together – beyond just texting each other throughout the day (which, my husband and I do). I’m a strong believer that a couple should have inside jokes and things about them that only the two of them share, and many relationship apps offer this by providing a private, couples-only platform where the two of you can create your own little social media world. And some relationship apps even offer up relationship advice now!
Let’s look at some of the best apps that are really relationship tools for couples, disguised as a mixture of Fun + Functionality.
First up – because you happen to be on a personal finance blog – is my favorite couple’s budgeting app on the market.
It’s free, it’s about as fun as you can get with numbers, and it’s filled with tons of functionality to get your couple’s finances under control (then maintain that control).
- Giving couples the ability to set and track money goals together.
- Give you and your partner a shared to-do list for money chores (under “Tasks) so that you remember important things like paying the property taxes, upcoming bill reminders, and bill splits.
- Allowing the two of you to choose how much of the finances you share together, and how much you keep private (since some couples combine finances, some combine partially, and others don’t combine at all).
- Free money coaching to couples!
Available on Android or iPhone.
This is a private couple’s app, where the two of you can engage together without the rest of the world seeing (in fact…you can’t invite a third person, even if you wanted to!).
Psst: the popular Couple app is not working in 2019, and this app is the closest thing to it that I’ve found.
There’s GIFs you can create from selfies and cute emojis that dress up a regular texting conversation. But you can also sketch with it and there’s a shared calendar so you can make plans together (plus a cute countdown to special shared events, to get the both of you excited).
Gottman Card Decks App
As part of The Gottman Institute’s mission to revolutionize the study of marriage through research, they created the Gottman Card Decks app.
The app includes over 14 card decks with 1,000 questions, statements, and ideas for your relationship, all developed from their Art of Science and Love weekend workshop for couples.
And it’s totally free!
Happy Couple App
The Happy Couple App is like a newlywed couple’s quiz that you both can play together, over your phones. You each get 10 short questions a day (5 about you, and 5 about your partner) to answer. On your individual phones, you give your answer, then answers are revealed and points are awarded based on matched responses.
Don’t worry – there’s built-in functionality for commenting and leaving GIFs.
You can unlock new challenges as you get answers that match, and go on to new levels (sounds just like a relationship, eh?).
If nothing else, even couples who have been together for 10 years+ will learn about each other.
This app also offers tips for bettering your relationship.
Apps for Relationship Building
What builds relationships?
Activities, conversations, and experiences that help the two of you go deeper into yourselves and into your relationship. Growing in all forms of intimacy. Getting vulnerable together and showing your true selves in a safe, loving space.
I just love that there are now relationship apps that help with relationship building!
Love Nudge App
Ever heard of the 5 Languages of Love? My husband went through the book together, filled out the quizzes, and figured out each other’s love languages.
Now with this app? We can be nudged to complete actions and use words to actually keep each other’s love tanks filled.
And you can even nudge other to suggest ways they can fill up your love tank.
Relationship Tracker Apps
Sooooo…I might just have to show this section to my own husband with a *hint, hint*. Because, while he’s great at certain things in our relationship, and Lord knows he tries, he’s really, really bad at remembering significant dates.
Here’s a bunch of relationship trackers that can not only help both of you keep track of those really important dates, but also act as a superfan to your relationship – cheering you on with milestone notifications.
Been Love Memory – Love Counter
You get some impressive customization options with this relationship tracker, such as the ability to choose from lots of different fonts, change the background, profile pics, and other fun ways to customize this app.
A neat feature is also the Love Diary, where you can type in a title and actual content around a certain date, then share it/keep it for the two of you.
You can also set a passcode to the app, so that your memories remain just between the two of you!
My Love App
You pop in your names, your anniversary date, and a personalized picture of the two of you, and this app does all the other work. It’ll track your anniversary date, plus how long you’ve been dating (in days, months, and years).
You even get cute reminders and notifications when you’ve made it another month with each other!
LoveEgg – Love Calendar
This relationship tracker is packed with some cool functions, like a relationship calendar full of firsts – first meeting, first kiss, first engagement, first anniversary – and the ability to create a photo album of your relationship.
Free on Android (not available on iOS).
Shared To-Do List Apps for Couples
We’re getting into some hardcore functionality in this section, with couple’s apps that share to-do lists over both of your smartphones.
Because, what household and what marriage doesn’t need a good to-do list to keep the paperwork-mill running?
I offer up some great shared to-do list apps as solutions, and many of them go beyond just a shared to-do list functionality, and into “relationship tool” territory.
This is a shared calendar app for your partner, your family, or even your friends. You can put special events on it and receive fun countdown notifications. You each can “like” and comment on the shared events,
I also like how you can use this as your personal calendar with the ability to keep some events private (say, that surprise date night you have planned for your husband!).
Free for iOS.
Simply Us is a shared calendar and shared to-do list app, rolled into one. Works with many different calendars, like Google, Hotmail, Yahoo, and Outlook.
And you can choose which events to share and which to keep private.
Also, you can privately show photos and messages.
Free for both iOS and Android.
You can create lists of tasks and reminders you need to get done, then assign them to different people (like, your partner!). You can also put due dates – I don’t know about you, but giving myself an actual deadline makes it much more likely that something will get done.
Interactive Apps for Adults
Are you looking for some spicy interactive apps for adults? Add some fun + freshness to your relationship with one below.
Ultimate Intimacy App
This offers one of the most fun interactive games for couples – a bedroom game (don’t worry, it’s clean and non-graphic)!
But it’s more than just that – there are conversation prompts, relationship activities, and a resource section for creative ideas to keep things romance-y in your relationship.
How cool is that? Also, actions you are asked to take are read through voice…meaning your hands are free for other things (*wink, wink*).
This is a game for couples where you each get rewarded for completing over 500 challenges (the points you can then use to “shop” for coupons to use on your partner). Coupons you can both cash in with each other include things like taking your partner out to eat, watching something they choose on Netflix, massaging them, etc.
And guess what? You can great your own coupons and put them in the marketplace for others. Not only that, but you can create your own dares and send them to your partner.
You can also use this app to save a timeline of memories you create together (either playing this game, or with any photos you’d like).
Free for iOS.
Created by a father of two kids who realized his marriage needed some love space to breathe, the Desire app lets you play against your partner for points, as well as pick from over 40,000 dares to send to your partner.
Did I mention that you can set timers for how long your partner has to complete a dare?
The more points you get, the juicier the dares you get to choose from.
Sounds like a little fun competition, eh?
Alright…which of the apps for married couples are you MOST excited about trying? Any other relationship apps for couples that should make my list? Go ahead and tell me in the comments below. Then, be sure to sign up for at least one!