Here's a frugal date idea you might have not thought of especially if you're on a long distance relationship. Read on to find out. | https://www.frugalconfessions.com/save-me-money/a-frugal-date-for-long-distance-and-near-distance-couples.php

Most of my relationship with Paul has been long distance. We met in Japan in our 20s, fell madly in love, and spent the next several years traversing the globe every few months to be together. I once spent a long weekend in Japan with him, he flew to Maryland next, and then when his grandfather died several months later we met one another in Tulsa, Oklahoma. One Christmas break I spent three weeks with him in Japan, and then he was sent to a school in Biloxi, Mississippi where we spent a wonderful week together (over spring break) months before Hurricane Katrina struck. Florida, Virginia, Texas, Pennsylvania…it didn’t matter where the other was; we would fly to be together. Because we went months without seeing one another we had to find ways to connect in-between. And not only connect, but to build and nurture a relationship through common experiences even though we were never on the same continent. We also were both dirt-poor and any extra money we could get our hands on was spent on airline tickets. This meant that whatever we did in-between being together had to be cheap and effective.

We tried almost everything. We wrote letters and included little insignias of affection, like a chocolate, a photo of something we had seen, a poem or snippet of something we were reading, confetti, stickers, a spritz of cologne/perfume, magazine articles the other might enjoy, etc. After each trip I would develop the photos we had taken and send him copies in a letter. Once I videotaped my letter as well as my home in PA so that Paul could get a better sense of my life. We even both read the same book at the same time. All of these letters and mementos were wonderful, but the most effective thing we started to do was a brilliant idea of Paul’s: dinner and a movie.

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You may wonder how two people who were sometimes over 7,000 miles apart were able to enjoy dinner and a movie together. Very simply: we cooked dinner and watched a movie at the same time. One person would choose a recipe and a movie, and would email this to other person. Both of us agreed on a day and time we would start cooking. We would text one another during cooking, and when each was finished, put in the rented movie. If someone needed a break, they would text the other and we would pause at the same time, and restart together again. Not only did this have us eating good food and watching great flicks, but it created this experience we were sharing together. We could discuss the movie, we could laugh together, or get choked up and share it with the other person. This simple act extended both of our living rooms so that the distance suddenly shrunk dramatically.

What I love about this frugal date idea is that you can use it whether you have a long distance relationship or live with your partner.

Pick a Movie and Recipe: Possible Theme Ideas

You might want to introduce a family recipe to your partner, or try something you saw in a magazine from six months ago. Likewise, you could pick a movie that is an old favorite, or something new neither of you have watched before.

While you do not need to pick a recipe and movie that complement one another, it could really add to the experience.

  • A mafia movie and an Italian dish. Paul and I watched the season finale of the Sopranos to a lovely chicken francesca recipe from the Sopranos Cookbook which I checked out of my local library
  • Julie and Julia and a french dish
  • Westerns and chili or barbecue
  • Slumdog Millionaire, The Namesake, or other Indian movies and Indian-inspired dishes

Invite Your Loved One to Dinner and a Movie

Anticipation of a wonderful time together starts with the invitation. Photocopy the chosen recipe and bundle this together with the movie idea. You could roll it up and tie it with a bow. If you are long distance, create an email with the recipe attached (or written out in the email), and construct or copy and paste in some romantic text art like a rose, cupid, or a heart. Include the date on your partner’s calendar or a calendar you share together. If you are together, or have time to mail a letter, you can include a CD of some tunes to play while in the kitchen that you handpicked for the occasion.

Take a Free Online Cooking Lesson Together

Paul and I (along with lots of couples) love to take cooking classes together. The problem is that they can be expensive. For your frugal date instead of just cooking a meal and watching a movie, you could choose an online cooking lesson to take together for free.  Here are a few to get you started:

  • PBS offers 28 free full episodes of Julia Childs (scroll down and click on “More Full Episodes Options” for more).
  • Epicurious.com has some great menus with ingredient lists and videos detailing how to make each. They also offer technique videos.
  • The Food Network offers cooking demo videos.
  • The New York Times offers a series called Cooking with the Times (some with videos, some without).
  • Thai Food Tonight offers many Thai food how-to videos, including Pad Thai from a chef in Thailand and Satay.

25 replies
  1. Matt
    Matt says:

    Cool suggestions Amanda. My wife is going to like that I am reading your blog! Currently, our idea of a date night is getting the kids to bed on time so we can fall asleep on the couch while watching DVR’d shows.

    • FruGal
      FruGal says:

      Haha!

      We don’t have kids, and I can only imagine doing the same thing after a long day. Maybe you could do this on a weekend night?

  2. John @ Married (with Debt)
    John @ Married (with Debt) says:

    This is so unique and sweet. I’ve only had to do the long distance thing once, for 3 months, but we saw each other every weekend. Just shows that love will always find a way.

    • FruGal
      FruGal says:

      Thank you John! I hope to help out other long distance couples struggling for connection, or to add some spice to ones nearby:).

  3. Krantcents
    Krantcents says:

    Technology helps too by using skype, you are there. My daughter had dinner with us during a holiday using skype. Distance and lack of money can make you more creative and interesting to each other.

  4. Thomas - Ways to Invest Money
    Thomas - Ways to Invest Money says:

    Sometimes distance makes the relationship better and more interesting. Especially of the two of you are the types to keep busy. People are always talking about how boring their relationships get. Sounds like you two had no problem. With skype, gtalk and all the other things available it can be an even cheaper date.

  5. Barbara Friedberg
    Barbara Friedberg says:

    This is so romantic!! I love all of the ideas!! Personally, I’ve never had a long distance relationship, I think it would be really difficult.

  6. Azra, ReadyForZero
    Azra, ReadyForZero says:

    Love this post! I’m currently in an LDR (he’s in LA, I’m in SF) and we totally watch movies together over the phone when we’re apart. Maybe we’ll take it a step further and try cooking together as well 🙂

  7. LaTisha
    LaTisha says:

    Wonderful ideas! It’s so difficult to be in a long term relationship and I don’t know if technology makes it easier or harder. Video chats are nice but they can be frustrating when you would rather be in the same room with your SO. I love the dinner and a movie idea though. Now I just have to convince my honey… 🙂

    • Amanda
      Amanda says:

      I’m glad this helps, LaTisha! Interesting point on the technology. I think it enhanced our relationship, but I can see what you mean. Oddly enough, we never used a webcam…I’m not sure why (it was 2003ish, so they were definitely available).

  8. White Sapphire
    White Sapphire says:

    Lucky for you Amanda, you succeed maintain long distance relationship with Paul. I’ve been through long distance relationship, but I failed. It was happen to me several years ago since that I’m trying to avoid LDR. In my opinion if you are undergoing a relationship, then needs to meet physically at least 2 times a week. We cannot rely on phone, fb or other social media.

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