Whether you are in a small town, a large city, or somewhere in between, meeting people is hard to do. I’ve had this conversation with several of my friends over the years since high school/college and we all agree that once you are out of the fish-tank environment where no less than 1,000+ people your own age are in close proximity at all times, it is difficult to meet anyone.Whether you are in a small town, a large city, or somewhere in between, meeting people is hard to do. Click To Tweet
My Embarrassing Attempt at Meeting Someone in a Small Town
For a time in my early 20s I lived in a small but extremely charming town in Maryland. After graduating from the town’s college and living on my own for four months I realized that I was quite lonely. I decided that it was time to give dating a try; only I didn’t really know how to go about meeting people. In college and high school it was relatively easy to meet people my age. Being out on my own in the general population with no scheduled classes or social events made it seem almost impossible to meet someone.
One of the only social outlets in this town was a bar down the street from the apartment I shared with a college senior. During a Thursday night special I marched myself down to this bar, convinced it was the only way I was going to ever meet someone. Slightly embarrassed to be sitting around by myself with a half-emptied glass of gin and tonic—the graduated college student still living in the college town—I eagerly stared at the front door as one by one perhaps ten of us “townies” gathered inside. I scanned the room at my prospects, realizing that most of the people were much too old for my liking. A few college students wandered in but they did not really catch my eye. And then…there he was. Not Mr. Right, not even Mr. Handsome…just Mr. Only-Possibility-in-a-Small-but-Charming Town. I turned my focus onto him, convinced that he was my only option.
While I did not catch his eye that night, I came back the next week in hopes of a “chance encounter”. No luck. I got up the nerve to ask the bartender if he knew anything about this guy from my description—a few inches taller than me, shoulder length blonde hair, in his 30s, cleft chin. I found out where he worked—miraculously just buildings down from where I worked—which led me to change my 5 minute commute route by a few streets to account for the possibility of a drive-by sighting (question to younger self: did I think we would exchange numbers through the windshields?). It was pathetic. By the time I actually “ran into him” at that same bar weeks later all I could do was stare at that chin and slowly back out of the surrounding group of people to leave. Turns out, up close I wasn’t even attracted to him.
Free Online Dating Sites
With Valentine’s Day right around the corner I thought I would take the time to share that frightfully embarrassing story as well as discuss online dating sites. While the larger online dating websites each tout the most love and/or marriages in their lovey-dovey commercials, something they do not typically advertise is the cost of their service. Depending on how many months you sign-up for in advance, you could be paying between $19.95 per month (for 12 month sign-up) and $59.95 (for a single month sign-up) on eHarmony. Match.com will cost between $16.99 per month (for 6 month sign-up) and $33.99 (for single month sign-up). This could be a good deal for you considering the possible reward. However, I would like to list some free online dating sites that you might want to give a try before opening up your wallet.
As our world becomes increasingly digitized it only seems rational that dating (or at least meeting someone) would have an online option as well. Should you choose to use an online dating site, please be extremely careful when meeting up with people (you can find tips for safe online dating here). If I were still on the dating scene I think I would stick to the old-fashioned way of meeting people. Then again, had I not met Paul perhaps I would have been driven onto an online dating website after a few more Thursday night happy hours at that bar.
Do you use an online dating service? What is your review? Care to share any embarrassing dating stories of your own?
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